How LOVE changes YOU and how TIME changes LOVE

I think that's quite the essence of what I want to say today. Yes, I am talking about the cliched falling in love, butterflies fluttering in the stomach, waiting for hours to get a glimpse of that special someone, or hear his/her voice.

When we first fall in love, we all experience this. Well, at least most of us do! Whether we are in a relationship, or engaged to be married, somewhere there is a phase of "falling in love." What is even more interesting is the expression or confession of being in love. Those few fleeting moments that lovers wait for, what feels like ages, and when we actually confess the love we feel for each other, feels like a lifetime.

I think that positive energy stays with us for a very very long time. In those few days, no matter what happens, you're on seventh heaven, irrespective of whether you missed the bus, or your boss screamed at you, or your parents are mad at you, or a dog peed on your bike/car (yes that's quite annoying, really). So yeah, the world is all rosy, everything is sugar and spice and all things nice. (Heart heart heart)
(Okay, this IS cheesy)

And then...

Fast forward by ten years.
You're away from each other for say 25 days. Do you wish the usual Good mornings, Good nights, Love you honey, Miss you, Take care, Eat on time, I-am-so-worried-because-you-sneezed (I always found this super cheesy, even during my courtship days. No offence intended!) so on and so forth? Now you'll say, are you kidding me?! How can you be so jobless! Before you ridicule me, please rewind to your courtship days, alright? So yes, we have so much more responsibility, of the parents, of the kids, earn money, manage the house, pay the bills, buy stuff, walk the dog... Phew. It even sounds so tiring. There is no time for silly romancing. So what happened to all the love? Did it die? What do you think?

I pondered over it for a while too. And got my answer as well. It doesn't die, but love matures. Yes, your partner may not wish you good mornings and nights anymore, but leaves a silent kiss on your cheek when you fall asleep dead tired as soon as you hit the bed. When you know your partner is having a hard time, you don't ask too many questions, you give him/her their space and allow them to talk when they want to. When you know that in your absence, she will look after the elders and kids well. When you know that wherever he goes, you can trust him to belong to only you and never doubt him. When you need "me time" and he is ready to babysit the kids on his only holiday. When you are together in nurturing a family and taking up responsibilities together without cribbing about the lack of time. When you know that even when you are not talking for hours together everyday, in your heart you love and care for him and rest assured that she is safe and sound. When he knows that just because you're on a holiday with the kids, you're still on duty because being a mother is a full time job, and he appreciates it in his mind.

Time brings maturity to love, and once it comes in, you don't always need words to convey it, because you can feel it every single day.

Take care.